Sex Addiction

 

Studies carried out in America and the UK estimate that between 6% and  8% of all adults could be classified as having some form of sex addiction. There is of course much debate as to what sort of behaviour could be indicative of sex addiction, rather than just a healthy and adventurous sexual appetite.

There are a number of activities that can help a suspecting sex addict or their loved ones to identify if they may have a problem with sex addiction, some of these can include one or more of the following: -

  • An over active mind focused on sex for much of the time and a disproportionate amount of time spent seeking out new sexual activities
  • Engaged in watching porn for long periods either together or alone
  • Feeling negative emotions or depressed when not engaged in sexual activity
  • Seeking out numerous partners whilst engaged in a relationship with someone else and keeping such activity secret.
  • Becoming secretive with partners about their movements and extreme alertness as to phone access.
  • A propensity to explore and participate in extreme forms of sexual behaviour putting either themselves or others at risk.

There is a lot of historical misinformation about the complex nature of sexual addiction and its causes, often driven by unhelpful terminology such as nymphomaniac, slut, stud, etc. These references contribute to the miss held belief that such behaviour is in fact a choice by the individual, who is wrongly thought to be acting out of some form of low moralistic values.

Often heightened sexual activity can be traced back to childhood trauma . One study found that 80% of people seeking therapy had actually suffered some form of sexual abuse as a child. An early negative sexual experiences in life will almost always play a significant part in how their future sexual relationships are formed and such abuse will often cloud their perception as to where healthy sexual boundaries are best set. Another misconception of  sex addiction is the popular held belief that it’s all about sex itself, whereas sufferers actually very rarely get pleasure from their activity, instead they are left with overwhelming feeling of guilt, shame, loneliness and self-loathing. Whilst it's true that the sexual orgasm activates the brains pleasure centers and causes the release of dopamine, which is similar to the high achieved through some drugs or other pleasurable activity, but for the sex addict the effect can be fleeting and short lived, driving them to continue their activity in the pursuit of happiness.

Sex addiction can have a devastating effect on the lives of the addict, their partners and family as the addicts behaviour is putting them at a heightened risk of contracting an STI or in the case of a woman an unwanted pregnancy. The good news is that with the right professional help by a qualified therapist a full and lasting recovery is possible and many people are able to regain their lives and lead happy and fulfilling relationship in the future.

Here at Addictions Away, we help you to explore and identify the reasons behind your addiction  and understand more clearly your emotional dependency on it to cope with life’s ups and downs. This will allow us to deliver the most appropriate form of therapy tailored to your unique circumstances.  Throughout your entire journey on the road to recovery our fully qualified and registered therapist will work closely alongside you, thus ensuring the best possible outcome. We offer confidential on-line and in person therapy services regulated by The British Standards Authority, provided at one of our therapy suites located throughout North Wales and Cheshire.

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